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CHAPTER 8
Relationship with the Children
Just like with any relationship, building a positive relationship with your children is one that requires work and
effort to make it strong and successful. Parenting is a tough job, and maintaining close relationships and open
communications helps to stay connected with them through all ages of their upbringing.
To discipline a child is not to torture the child. The Prophet sallallahu alaihe wassallam never struck another
human being except in warfare. The ways of discipline a child is to explain him/her your displeasure, and make
him/her understand that actions have consequences and remove the privilege that is related to the wrong the
child did. To minimize the need to discipline, build your family on routines which means that child know what
to expect and when to expect it.
Your children need to know that you believe they are a priority in your life. Children can observe excessive
stress and notice when they feel you are not paying them attention. Sometimes, part of being a parent is not
worrying about the small stuff and enjoying your children.
Tell your children you love them every day -- no matter their age. Even on trying days or after a parent-child
disagreement, when you don't exactly "like your child" at that moment, it is more important than ever to
express your love. A simple "I love you" goes a long way toward developing and then strengthening a
relationship.
Teach them about Islam
Allah says: “O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families against a Fire (Hell) whose
fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from
executing) the Commands they receive from Allah, but do that which they are commanded”
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Teach them to pray
It was narrated from ‘Amr ibn Shu’ayb from his father that his grandfather said: The Messenger of
Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Teach your children to pray when they are
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al-Tahreem 66:6