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Chapter 34
ءﺎﺴﻨﻟﺎﺑ ﺔﻴﺻﻮﻟا بﺎﺑ
Recommendations with regard to Women
Allah, the Exalted, says:
"... and live with them honourably".
"You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire, so do not incline
too much to one of them (by giving her more of your time and provision) so as to leave the other hanging (i.e.,
neither divorced nor married). And if you do justice, and do all that is right, and fear Allah by keeping away
from all that is wrong, then Allah is Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.''
لﺎﻗ ﻪﻨﻋ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا ﻲﺿر ةﺮﻳﺮه ﻲﺑأ ﻦﻋو
ﻢﱠﻠَﺳو ِﻪْﻴَﻠَﻋ ُﷲا ﻰّﻠَﺻ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا ُلﻮﺳر لﺎﻗ
ِءﺎﺴﱢﻨﻟﺎِﺑ اﻮُﺻْﻮﺘْﺳا
ُﻪَﺗْﺮﺴَآ ُﻪُﻤﻴِﻘُﺗ َﺖﺒهَذ ْنِﺈَﻓ ، ُﻩﻼْﻋَأ ِﻊﻠﱢﻀﻟا ﻲﻓ ﺎﻣ َجﻮْﻋَأ ﱠنِإَو ، ٍﻊَﻠِﺿ ْﻦِﻣ ْﺖَﻘِﻠُﺧ َةَأْﺮﻤﻟا ﱠنِﺈﻓ ، ًاﺮْﻴﺧ
، ُﻪَﺘآﺮﺗ ْنِإو ،
ِءﺎَﺴﱢﻨﻟﺎِﺑ اﻮُﺻْﻮﺘﺳﺎﻓ ، َجﻮﻋَأ ْلﺰﻳ ْﻢ
ﻪﻴﻠﻋ ٌﻖﻔﺘﻣ
ﻦﻴﺤﻴﺤﺼﻟا ﻲﻓ ﺔﻳاور ﻲﻓو
ﺎﻬﻴِﻓو ﺖْﻌﺘﻤَﺘْﺳا ، ﺎَﻬِﺑ ﺖْﻌﺘﻤَﺘﺳا ِنِإو ، ﺎَﻬَﺗْﺮﺴآ ﺎﻬَﺘْﻤَﻗَأ ْنِإ ِﻊﻠﻀﻟﺎآ ُةَأْﺮﻤﻟا
ٌجﻮَﻋ «
ٍﻢﻠﺴﻤﻟ ﺔﻳاور ﻲﻓو
َﻢﻴِﻘﺘْﺴَﺗ ْﻦَﻟ ، ٍﻊَﻠِﺿ ﻦِﻣ ْﺖﻘِﻠُﺧ َةَأْﺮﻤﻟا ﱠنِإ
َﺖْﻌَﺘﻤَﺘْﺳا ، ﺎَﻬِﺑ ﺖْﻌﺘﻤﺘﺳا ْنِﺈَﻓ ، ٍﺔﻘﻳﺮﻃ ﻰَﻠﻋ َﻚﻟ
ﺎﻬُﻗﻼﻃ ﺎَهُﺮْﺴَآَو ، ﺎَﻬَﺗﺮﺴآ ﺎﻬُﻤﻴﻘُﺗ َﺖْﺒَهَذ ْنِإو ، ٌجﻮَﻋ ﺎﻬﻴِﻓو ﺎَﻬِﺑ
» ٌجﻮﻋ «
واﻮﻟاو ﻦﻴﻌﻟا ﺢﺘﻔﺑ ﻮه
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said:
"Take my advice
with regard to women: Act kindly towards women, for they were created from a rib, and the most crooked part of a
rib is its uppermost. If you attempt to straighten it; you will break it, and if you leave it alone it will remain crooked;
so act kindly toward women".
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
In another narration of Al-Bukhari and Muslim, Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said:
"A woman is like a rib, if you
attempt to straighten it, you will break it; and if you benefit from her, you will do so while crookedness remains in
In another narration of Muslim, Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said:
'Woman has been created from a rib and will in
no way be straightened for you; so if you want to benefit from her, you will benefit from her while crookedness
remains in her. If you attempt to straighten her, you will break her, and breaking her is divorcing her".
The words (
Istawso bi' nisa'
) mean, take care of your wives. Whatever is the formation of the words
of the Hadith, it stresses the importance of kind treatment to wives because woman is not only weaker than man by
nature, but also less intelligent. On account of his being more intelligent and having greater patience, man should be
more forgiving in his dealing with her. The secret of a pleasant family life lies in this advice of the Prophet (PBUH)
with its emphasis on kind treatment to wives.
، ﻪﻨﻋ ُﻪﱠﻠﻟا ﻲﺿر َﺔَﻌْﻣَز ﻦﺑ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا ﺪﺒﻋ ﻦﻋو
َﺔَﻗﺎﱠﻨﻟا ﺮَآذو ، ُﺐُﻄْﺨﻳ ﻢﱠﻠَﺳو ِﻪْﻴَﻠَﻋ ُﷲا ﻰّﻠَﺻ ﱠﻲﺒﻨﻟا َﻊﻤﺳ ﻪﻧَأ
ﻢﱠﻠَﺳو ِﻪْﻴَﻠَﻋ ُﷲا ﻰّﻠَﺻ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا لﻮﺳر لﺎﻘﻓ ، ﺎَهﺮَﻘﻋ ىِﺬﱠﻟاو
ﺎَهﺎَﻘْﺷَأ ﺚﻌﺒْﻧا ِذِإ
ٌمِرﺎﻋ ،ٌﺰﻳِﺰﻋ ٌﻞُﺟَر ﺎﻬَﻟ َﺚﻌﺒْﻧا
ﻓ ٌﻊﻴِﻨﻣ
ِﻪِﻄْهر ﻲ «
َلﺎﻘَﻓ ، ﱠﻦﻬﻴِﻓ َﻆﻋﻮَﻓ ، َءﺎﺴﱢﻨﻟا َﺮَآذ ﱠﻢُﺛ
ُﻪﱠﻠﻌَﻠﻓ ِﺪْﺒَﻌْﻟا ﺪْﻠﺟ ُﻪَﺗَأﺮْﻣا ُﺪِﻠْﺠﻴﻓ ْﻢُآﺪَﺣَأ ُﺪِﻤْﻌﻳ
ِﻪِﻣﻮﻳ ﺮِﺧﺁ ْﻦِﻣ ﺎَﻬُﻌﺟﺎﻀُﻳ
لﺎﻗو ِﺔَﻃْﺮﱠﻀﻟا ﻦِﻣ ْﻢِﻬﻜﺤﺿ ﻲﻓ ْﻢُﻬﻈَﻋَو ﱠﻢُﺛ
؟ ُﻞﻌﻔﻳ ﺎﱠﻤِﻣ ْﻢُآَﺪَﺣَأ ُﻚﺤﻀﻳ َﻢِﻟ
ﻪﻴﻠﻋ ﻖﻔﺘﻣ
ِءاﺮﻟاو ﺔﻠﻤﻬﻤﻟا ﻦﻴﻌﻟﺎﺑ
ﻪُﻟﻮﻗو ، ﺪِﺴْﻔُﻤﻟا ُﺮﻳﱢﺮﱢﺸﻟا ﻮُه
: »
« ْيَأ ،
ﺔﻋﺮﺴﺑ َمﺎَﻗ
`Abdullah bin Zam`ah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported that he heard the Prophet (PBUH) giving a
speech when he mentioned the she-camel (of Prophet Salih) and the man who had killed her. Messenger of Allah
(PBUH) said:
"When the most wicked man among them went forth (to kill the she-camel).'
(91:12) signifies that a
distinguished, wicked and most powerful chief of the people jumped up to kill the she-camel.'' Then he (PBUH)
made mention of women and said,
"Some of you beat your wives as if they were slaves, and then lie with them at
the end of the day"