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لﺎﻗ ﻪﻨﻋ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا ﻲﺿر َةﺪْﻴَﺣ ِﻦﺑ َﺔَﻳوﺎَﻌُﻣ ﻦﻋو
: ُﺖﻠﻗ :
لﺎﻗ ؟ ِﻪْﻴَﻠَﻋ ﺎَﻧﺪَﺣَأ ِﺔَﺟْوَز ﱡﻖَﺣ ﺎﻣ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا لﻮﺳر ﺎﻳ
ْﻟا ﻲﻓ ﱠﻻِإ ْﺮُﺠْﻬَﺗ ﻻو ، ْﺢﱢﺒَﻘُﺗ ﻻَو ،َﻪﺟَﻮْﻟا ِبﺮْﻀَﺗ ﻻو َﺖْﻴﺴَﺘْآا اَذِإ ﺎَهﻮُﺴْﻜَﺗو ، َﺖْﻤِﻌَﻃ اَذِإ ﺎﻬَﻤﻌْﻄُﺗ نَأ
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لﺎﻗو دواد ﻮﺑَأ ﻩاور ٌﻦﺴﺣ
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ْﺢﱢﺒَﻘُﺗ ﻻ
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ﻪﱠﻠﻟا ِﻚَﺤﱠﺒَﻗ ْﻞُﻘﺗ ﻻ
Mu`awiyah bin Haidah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: I asked Messenger of Allah (PBUH): "What
right can any wife demand of her husband?'' He replied,
"You should give her food when you eat, clothe her when
you clothe yourself, not strike her on the face, and do not revile her or separate from her except in the house"
[Abu Dawud].
If it comes to temporarily severing relation with a disobedient wife to set her right, it should be done
within the house and the best course for it is that one suspends the practice of sleeping with her. Some people say
that this suspension should be to the extent of sleeping with her only and one should not stop speaking to her
because that will increase the rift between the two. But in case of special circumstances, one can separate from her
by leaving his home, as was done by the Prophet (PBUH) by shifting to upper room of his house.
ﻪﻨﻋ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا ﻲﺿر ةﺮﻳﺮه ﻲﺑأ ﻦﻋو
لﺎﻗ ،
ﻢﱠﻠَﺳو ِﻪْﻴَﻠَﻋ ُﷲا ﻰّﻠَﺻ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا لﻮﺳر لﺎﻗ
ًﺎﻧﺎَﻤﻳِإ ﻦﻴﻨﻣْﺆُﻤﻟا ُﻞَﻤْآَأ
ﻢِﻬِﺋﺎَﺴِﻨِﻟ ﻢآُرﺎﻴﺧ ْﻢُآرﺎﻴِﺧَو ، ًﺎﻘُﻠُﺧ ْﻢُﻬُﻨﺴْﺣَأ
لﺎﻗو يﺬﻣﺮﱢﺘﻟا ﻩاور
ٌﺢﻴﺤﺻ ٌﻦﺴﺣ ٌﺚﻳﺪﺣ
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said,
"The believers who
show the most perfect Faith are those who have the best behaviour, and the best of you are those who are the best to
their wives".
لﺎﻗ ﻪﻨﻋ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا ﻲﺿر بﺎﺑُذ ﻲﺑأ ِﻦﺑ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا ِﺪﺒﻋ ِﻦﺑ سﺎﻳِإ ﻦﻋو
ﻢﱠﻠَﺳو ِﻪْﻴَﻠَﻋ ُﷲا ﻰّﻠَﺻ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا ُلﻮﺳر لﺎ
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ِﻪﱠﻠﻟا َءﺎَﻣِإ اﻮُﺑﺮْﻀَﺗ
َلﺎَﻘَﻓ ،ﻢﱠﻠَﺳو ِﻪْﻴَﻠَﻋ ُﷲا ﻰّﻠَﺻ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا لﻮﺳر ﻰﻟإ ﻪﻨﻋ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا ﻲﺿر ُﺮَﻤُﻋ َءﺎﺠَﻓ
ُءﺎﺴﱢﻨﻟا َنْﺮِﺋَذ
َﺻ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا ِلﻮﺳر ِلﺂِﺑ فﺎﻃَﺄَﻓ ﱠﻦِﻬﺑْﺮَﺿ ﻲﻓ َ
ﺺﱠﺧَﺮَﻓ ، ﱠﻦﻬﺟاوْزَأ ﻰَﻠَﻋ
َنﻮﻜْﺸَﻳ ٌﺮﻴِﺜَآ ٌءﺎﺴِﻧ ﻢﱠﻠَﺳو ِﻪْﻴَﻠَﻋ ُﷲا ﻰّﻠ
ﻢﱠﻠَﺳو ِﻪْﻴَﻠَﻋ ُﷲا ﻰّﻠَﺻ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا لﻮﺳر لﺎﻘﻓ ، ﱠﻦُﻬﺟاوْزَأ
ﱠﻦُﻬَﺟاَوْزَأ َنﻮُﻜْﺸﻳ ِﺮﻴﺜَآ ٌءﺎﺴِﻧ ٍﺪﱠﻤﺤُﻣ ﺖْﻴَﺑ ِلﺂﺑ َفﺎَﻃَأ ْﺪَﻘَﻟ
ْﻢُآِرﺎﻴﺨﺑ ﻚﺌِﻟوُأ َﺲْﻴَﻟ
ﺢﻴﺤﺻ ٍدﺎﻨﺳﺈﺑ دواد ﻮﺑأ ﻩاور
Iyas bin `Abdullah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said,
"Do not beat
Allah's bondwomen.''
When `Umar (May Allah be pleased with him) came to Messenger of Allah (PBUH) and
complained saying: "The women have become very daring towards their husbands,'' He (PBUH) gave permission to
beat them. Then many women went to the family of the Messenger of Allah (wives) complaining of their husbands,
and he (the Prophet (PBUH)) said,
"Many women have gone round Muhammad's family complaining of their
husbands. Those who do so, that is, those who take to beating their wives, are not the best among you".
[Abu Dawud].
This Hadith tells us that those who take to beating their wives are not perfect people. The decency of
manners warrants that one must refrain from beating, as is evident from the conduct of the Prophet (PBUH) who
neither resorted to beating with his own hand any of his wives nor slaves nor any other. He would avenge those who
transgressed the limits of Allah.
لﺎﻗ ﻢﱠﻠَﺳو ِﻪْﻴَﻠَﻋ ُﷲا ﻰّﻠَﺻ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا لﻮﺳر نَأ ﺎﻤﻬﻨﻋ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا ﻲﺿر صﺎﻌﻟا ﻦﺑ وﺮﻤﻋ ِﻦﺑ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا ِﺪﺒﻋ ﻦﻋو
ُﺔﺤﻟﺎﱠﺼﻟا ُةَأْﺮَﻤﻟا ﺎَﻬﻋﺎﺘَﻣ ُﺮْﻴَﺧَو ، ٌعﺎَﺘَﻣ ﺎَﻴْﻧﱡﺪﻟا
ﻢﻠﺴﻣ ﻩاور
`Abdullah bin `Amr bin Al-`as (May Allah be pleased with them) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said,
"The world is but a (quick passing) enjoyment; and the best enjoyment of the world is a pious and virtuous woman"
This Hadith mentions the qualities of a virtuous woman. When her husband looks at her, she pleases
him; when he orders her, she obeys him; and when he is absent, she guards herself (
) and the property of her
husband. (Abu Dawud and Nasa'i).
This Hadith stresses the fact that if one wants success in this world and the Hereafter, he should select a pious wife.
Rather than going after her beauty, lineage and wealth, one should give preference to her Faith over all other
considerations. If he chooses a woman who is faithful to her Deen and strictly adheres to the Shari`ah, she would be
a source of blessing for him in this life and the Hereafter.