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Chapter 38
Urging one's kith and kin to Obey Allah and refrain from evils
Allah, the Exalted, says:
"And enjoin Salat (the prayer) on your family, and be patient in offering them (i.e., the Salat).''
"O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families against a Fire (Hell), whose fuel is men and
لﺎﻗ ﻪﻨﻋ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا ﻲﺿر َةﺮﻳﺮه ﻲﺑأ ﻦﻋو
ِﺔَﻗﺪﱠﺼﻟا ِﺮﻤَﺗ ْﻦِﻣ ًةﺮْﻤَﺗ ﺎﻤُﻬْﻨﻋ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا ﻲﺿر ﱟﻲﻠﻋ ُﻦﺑ ُﻦﺴﺤﻟا ﺬﺧَأ
ﻢﱠﻠَﺳو ِﻪْﻴَﻠَﻋ ُﷲا ﻰّﻠَﺻ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا ُلﻮﺳر لﺎﻘﻓ ِﻪﻴِﻓ ﻲﻓ ﺎَﻬﻠﻌﺠَﻓ
؟، َﺔﻗﺪﱠﺼﻟا ُﻞُآْﺄﻧ ﻻ ﺎﱠﻧَأ َﺖْﻤِﻠﻋ ﺎﻣَأ ، ﺎَﻬِﺑ ِمْرِإ ، ْﺦُآ ْﺦُآ
ﻪﻴﻠﻋ ﻖ .
ٍﺔﻳاور ﻲﻓو
ُﺔﻗﺪﱠﺼﻟا ﺎَﻨﻟ ﱡﻞِﺤَﺗ ﻻ ﺎﻧإ
ﻪﻟﻮﻗو :
» ْﺦِآ ْﺦِآ
ﻊﻣ ﺎَهِﺮﺴَﻜﺑ ُلﺎَﻘُﻳو ، ِءﺎَﺨﻟا ِنﺎَﻜْﺳﺎِﺑ ُلﺎﻘُﻳ
ًﺎﻴِﺒﺻ ﻪﻨﻋ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا ﻲﺿر ُﻦﺴﺤﻟا َنﺎَآو ، ِتاَرَﺬﻘَﺘْﺴُﻤﻟا ﻦﻋ ﱢﻲِﺒﱠﺼﻠﻟ ﺮْﺟَز ُﺔﻤﻠآ َﻲهو ِﻦﻳِﻮْﻨﱠﺘﻟا
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Al-Hasan bin `Ali (May Allah be pleased with them)
took one of the dates of the Sadaqah (charity) and put it in his mouth, whereupon Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said,
"Leave it, leave it, throw it away. Do you not know that we do not eat the Sadaqah (charity)?''
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
This Hadith emphasizes the following points:
1. Sadaqah is not lawful for the Prophet (PBUH) and his family. His family here means Banu Hashim and Banu
2. Proper upbringing of children is extremely important. They must be prohibited by parents from such things which
are indecent and unbecoming.
3. What is collected as Sadaqah is a national trust. The houses and institution where it is collected and kept, should
take strict care of its proper utilization. It is the duty of the custodians of Sadaqat that they protect them and give
them to the deserving people.
ﺪﺳَﻷا ِﺪﺒﻋ ِﻦﺑ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا ِﺪﺒﻋ َﺔﻤَﻠﺳ ﻲﺑأ ﻦﺑ ﺮَﻤُﻋ ٍ
ﺺْﻔﺣ ﻲﺑأ ﻦﻋو
ﻢﱠﻠَﺳو ِﻪْﻴَﻠَﻋ ُﷲا ﻰّﻠَﺻ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا لﻮﺳر ِﺐﻴﺑر
لﺎﻗ :
ﻲﻟ لﺎﻘﻓ ، ِﺔَﻔْﺤﱠﺼﻟا ﻲﻓ ُﺶﻴِﻄَﺗ يِﺪَﻳ ْﺖَﻧﺎَآو ، ﻢﱠﻠَﺳو ِﻪْﻴَﻠَﻋ ُﷲا ﻰّﻠَﺻ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا لﻮﺳر ِﺮْﺠﺣ ﻲﻓ ًﺎﻣﻼُﻏ ُﺖْﻨُآ
ُﷲا ﻰّﻠَﺻ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا ُلﻮﺳر
ﻢﱠﻠَﺳو ِﻪْﻴَﻠَﻋ
َﻚﻴﻠﻳ ﺎﱠﻤﻣ ﻞُآو ،َﻚِﻨﻴِﻤﻴِﺑ ْﻞُآَو ، ﻰﻟﺎﻌﺗ َﻪﱠﻠﻟا ﱢﻢﺳ ُمﻼُﻏ ﺎﻳ
َﻚْﻠِﺗ ْﺖَﻟاَز ﺎﻤَﻓ
ُﺪْﻌﺑ ﻲﺘﻤْﻌِﻃ
ﻪﻴﻠﻋ ٌﻖﻔﺘﻣ
ِﺔَﺤﻔﱠﺼﻟا ﻲِﺣاﻮَﻧ ﻲﻓ ُروُﺪَﺗ
. `Umar bin Abu Salamah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: I was a boy under the care of Messenger of
Allah (PBUH), and my hand would wander about in the dish. Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said to me
Allah's Name (i.e., say Bismillah before you start eating), eat with your right hand and eat from what is near to you".
I always followed this way of eating after this incident.
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
This Hadith brings the following points into focus:
1. Teaching good manners and morals to the children.
2. One must start his meals with Bismillah
(Begin with the Name of Allah)
and take his share of food from the side
of vessel in front of him, if all are eating from one vessel. If there are many varieties of fruit on the table then one
can choose freely.
3. If a child makes any mistake, he should be corrected right away because that proves more effective and is
engraved in his mind and heart.
لﺎﻗ ﺎﻤﻬﻨﻋ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا ﻲﺿر ﺮَﻤﻋ ﻦﺑا ﻦﻋو
لﻮﻘﻳ ﻢﱠﻠَﺳو ِﻪْﻴَﻠَﻋ ُﷲا ﻰّﻠَﺻ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا لﻮﺳر ﺖﻌﻤﺳ
، ٍعار ْﻢُﻜﱡﻠُآ
َر ْﻦَﻋ ٌلﻮﺌﺴﻣو ِﻪِﻠْهَأ ﻲﻓ ٍعاَر ُﻞُﺟﱠﺮﻟاو ، ِﻪِﺘﱠﻴِﻋَر ْﻦَﻋ ٌلﻮﺌﺴﻣو ، ٍعاَر ُمﺎَﻣِﻷاو ، ِﻪِﺘﱠﻴِﻋر ْﻦﻋ ٌلﻮﺌﺴﻣ ْﻢُﻜﱡﻠُآو
، ِﻪِﺘﱠﻴِﻋ
، ِﻪِﺘﱠﻴِﻋَر ْﻦَﻋ ٌلﻮﺌﺴﻣو ِﻩِﺪﱢﻴﺳ ِلﺎﻣ ﻲﻓ ٍعاَر ُمِدﺎَﺨﻟاو ، ﺎَﻬِﺘﱠﻴِﻋر ْﻦﻋ ﺔﻟﻮﺌﺴﻣو ﺎَﻬِﺟْوَز ِﺖْﻴﺑ ﻲﻓ ٌﺔﻴِﻋار
ِﻪِﺘﻴِﻋر ْﻦﻋ ٌلﻮﺌﺴﻣو ٍعار ْﻢُﻜﱡﻠُﻜﻓ
ﻪﻴﻠﻋ ٌﻖﻔﺘﻣ
Ibn `Umar (May Allah be pleased with them) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said,
"All of you are
guardians and are responsible for your subjects. The ruler is a guardian and responsible for his subjects; the man is a
guardian of his family; the woman is guardian in her husband's house and responsible for her wards; a servant is
guardian of his master's property and responsible for his ward. So all of you are guardians and are responsible for