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Chapter 129
ﺲﻴﻠﺠﻟاو ﺲﻠﺠﻤﻟا بادﺁ ﻲﻓ بﺎﺑ
Etiquette of Attending company and sitting with Companions
لﺎﻗ ﺎﻤﻬﻨﻋ ﷲا ﻲﺿر ﺮﻤﻋ ِﻦﺑا ﻦﻋ
ﻢﱠﻠَﺳو ِﻪْﻴَﻠَﻋ ُﷲا ﻰّﻠَﺻ ﷲا لﻮﺳر لﺎﻗ
ْﻦِﻣ ًﻼُﺟَر ْﻢُآُﺪَﺣأ ﱠﻦَﻤِﻴِﻘُﻳﻻ
ﱠﺴَﻔَﺗو اﻮﱡﻌَﺳﻮَﺗ ْﻦِﻜﻟو ﻪﻴِﻓ ُﺲﻠْﺠَﻳ ﻢﺛ ِﻪﺴﻠْﺠَﻣ
ﻪﻴِﻓ ْ
ﺲﻠِﺠَﻳ ْﻢَﻟ ﻪﺴِﻠْﺠﻣ ْﻦِﻣ ٌﻞُﺟَر ُﻪﻟ َمﺎﻗ اذإ َﺮَﻤُﻋ ُﻦﺑا نﺎَآَو
ﻪﻴﻠﻋ ﻖﻔﺘﻣ
Ibn `Umar (May Allah be pleased with them) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said,
"Do not ask someone
to give up his seat in order to take it, but make accommodation wide and sit at ease.''
It was Ibn `Umar's habit that if
a person left his seat for him, he would not take it.
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
Herein, we are told that the space of meeting should be wide enough to accommodate every
participant. None should feel the space problem. Good manners disallow a newcomer to get a seat vacated for
himself by force, no matter if the occupant is an inferior. Yet, there is nothing undesirable if the latter willingly
vacates the seat for a superior. Ibn `Umar (May Allah be pleased with them) would never agree to availing even a
willing offer in this respect. Obviously extreme Taqwa (fear of Allah) and moral scruples lay behind his reluctance
to take the place of somebody else. Yet, there are a few exceptions in this regard. For example, if somebody sits in
the chair of his teacher, he may be asked to leave it. Also if a man has fixed place in the market to sell his goods,
another person will not be justified in occupying it forcibly.
لﺎﻗ ﻢﱠﻠَﺳو ِﻪْﻴَﻠَﻋ ُﷲا ﻰّﻠَﺻ ﷲ لﻮﺳر نأ ﻪﻨﻋ ﷲا ﻲﺿر ةﺮﻳﺮه ﻲﺑأ ﻦﻋو
ٍﺲﻠْﺠَﻣ ْﻦﻣ ْﻢُآُﺪَﺣأ مَﺎﻗ اذإ
ﻪِﺑ ﱡﻖَﺣأ َﻮُﻬَﻓ ِﻪْﻴَﻟإ َﻊَﺟَر ﱠﻢُﺛ
ﻢﻠﺴﻣ ﻩاور
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said,
"If someone leaves
his seat (for one reason or another) and returns to it, he is better entitled to it.''
لﺎﻗ ﺎﻤﻬﻨﻋ ﻪﱠﻠﻟا ﻲﺿر َةَﺮُﻤَﺳ ِﻦﺑ ﺮﺑﺎﺟ ﻦﻋو
ﺎَﻧُﺪَﺣَأ َﺲَﻠَﺟ ﻢﱠﻠَﺳو ِﻪْﻴَﻠَﻋ ُﷲا ﻰّﻠَﺻ ﻲﺒﻨﻟا ﺎَﻨْﻴَﺗَأ اَذإ ﺎﱠﻨُآ
ْﻨَﻳ ُﺚْﻴَﺣ
ﻲﻬَﺘ «
دواد ﻮﺑأ ﻩاور
لﺎﻗو يﺬﻣﺮﺘﻟاو
ﻦﺴﺣ ﺚﻳﺪﺣ
Jabir bin Samurah (May Allah be pleased with them) reported:
Whenever we came to the gathering of the
Prophet, we would sit down at the end (of the assembly).
[Abu Dawud].
This Hadith throws light on social etiquette. Suppose, if somebody comes to participate in a meeting,
he should not behave in a rustic manner by crossing over the heads of the sitting people. Nor should he attempt to
forcibly put himself in the place of another person.
لﺎﻗ ﻪﻨﻋ ﷲا ﻲﺿر ﻲﺳِرﺎﻔﻟا نﺎﻤْﻠَﺳ ﷲا ِﺪﺒﻋ ﻲﺑأ ﻦﻋو
ﻢﱠﻠَﺳو ِﻪْﻴَﻠَﻋ ُﷲا ﻰّﻠَﺻ ﷲا لﻮﺳر لﺎﻗ
» َﻻ
َﻳ ﱠﻢُﺛ ﻪﺘْﻴَﺑ ﺐﻴﻃ ْﻦِﻣ ﱡﺲﻤَﻳ ْوأ ِﻪِﻨْهُد ْﻦﻣ ُﻦهﱠﺪﻳَو ﺮﻬُﻃ ْﻦﻣ َعﺎﻄَﺘْﺳا ﺎﻣ ُﺮّﻬﻄَﺘَﻳَو ﺔﻌُﻤُﺠﻟا َمْﻮَﻳ ٌﻞُﺟَر ُﻞِﺴَﺘْﻐَﻳ
َﻼَﻓ ُجُﺮْﺨ
َﻌُﻤﺠﻟا ﻦَْﻴَﺑَو ُﻪَﻨْﻴَﺑ ﺎﻣ ُﻪﻟ َﺮِﻔُﻏ ﻻإ ُمﺎﻣﻹا َﻢﱠﻠَﻜَﺗ اَذإ ُﺖِﺼْﻨُﻳ ﱠﻢُﺛ ُﻪﻟ َﺐِﺘُآ ﺎﻣ ﻲّﻠَﺼُﻳ ﱠﻢُﺛ ْﻦﻴﻨْﺛا َﻦْﻴَﺑ
ىَﺮْﺧُﻷا ِﺔ
يرﺎﺨﺒﻟا ﻩاور
Salman Al-Farisi (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said,
"If a man takes
a bath on Friday, purifies himself thoroughly, uses oil and perfume which is available in the house, sets forth for the
mosque, does not (forcibly) sit between two persons, offers the prayer that is prescribed for him and listens to the
Imam silently, his sins between this Friday and the previous Friday will be forgiven.''
This Hadith highlights eight points. First, to take a bath on Friday is a matter of commendation.
Some say this bath is commendable, while others think it is necessary. Second, one should take it in the morning or
before going to the mosque to offer prayer. Third, on this occasion the use of perfume or hair-cream is preferable.
Fourth, there is a mention of good manners. Instead of crossing over the heads of worshippers, one should try to